Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Mistakes will be made

"It's really easy to be kind to others when I remember that none of us came into this world with a manual about how to get it all right."

--Jill Bolte Taylor, PhD
My Stroke of Insight

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Is honesty the best policy?

Yesterday several people in a workshop introduced themselves as honest or candid. As the workshop progressed, however, I realized a flaw in their use of honesty. They seemed to say whatever was on the top of their minds at any given moment, regardless of whether their comment was applicable and with no thought as to how their tone affects their meaning.

Something should be said now if it passes all three of these tests:

1) it is true (honest) to the best of your knowledge
2) it is useful
3) the person(s) who needs to hear it can hear it from you.

Yes, always speak the truth. Frankly, it is a lot easier than trying to remember to whom you made up what. But decide before you speak: is what I'm saying necessary and useful? Yes? Then you must say it; otherwise, you will have committed the sin of omission. This is a form of lying.

Now that you know you must say it, you must decide who needs the information. Then, will that person hear the information from you, or must it come from some other source?

Finally, assuming you are the right person to say it, think about how it will be received. Be sure your truth is told with mercy.

It will not be heard otherwise.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Is there something you are afraid to try?

"Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt."

(William Shakespeare)

Are your fears betraying you? What do you have to gain by trying something you'd like to do now, but doubt you can or should?

Monday, October 12, 2009

Which do you fear more: failure or criticism?

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do. --Eleanor Roosevelt

What is it, right now, that you think you cannot do?

Monday, October 5, 2009

What is failure?

. . . the first step toward success. Watch here.

What do people learn from criticsm?

They learn that we're critics!

Who is the most recent person you criticized this week? What was your purpose?

Who do you want to criticize now? Think through your purpose before you say a word!